This post is based on the video – Are Scars Attractive On Men?
- Are facial scars sexy? Do scars make you more attractive? Guys, it's a good question.
I had a post in a while back. And I found a great study from 2008 out of the University of Liverpool that shined a lot of light on this subject. And, I've got a personal story for you.
So, me and my brother, Tom we walk into a bar and he has a scar right down his face. He’s EOD US Army and we had a woman started asking us about how'd you get that scar, tell me the story.
And, he's like, okay, so, I'm in Afghanistan I'm defusing a bomb and all of a sudden I know this thing is going to go off. You know I just I know I've got seconds. He goes running away he dives to the window of the house and, boom, it goes off.
And she's like, oh, my gosh like what an amazing story. He’s like, oh, yeah, and by the way, you know, I got this in the ATV accident.
So, people if you've got a great story with a scar it becomes what is known is a noble scar and your attractiveness level goes up by 5.6%. Yes, they actually measure this. Now, what's interesting is having a noble scar in a visible place that is very clear is something that people look at like it came with a story came with some type of action.
And, women are attracted to this, but here's what’s interesting it’s not as — you're not going to be viewed as a provider you're viewed as adventurous as someone that's great for a short term relationship.
So, you're going out and you want to just have you know let's say a wife for the night, then I guess maybe you could paint the scar.
No, I'm just kidding here and hopefully my wife doesn't watch that part of the video. But, the point being is attractiveness of scars is real, but it depends on the type of scar because understand there's four types of scarring out there.
So, number one is keloid. And so, we're going to see this is usually on dark skin but we're going to see it basically the healing process goes into overtime. We're also going to see hypertrophic and hypertrophic is going to be red. This is something many of us are familiar with which my brother had a hypertrophic scar right on his face when he was in that ATV accident. We also see contracture scars and these are going to be usually after burns. And, the interesting thing about this one is it really can restrict movement.
Now, the final type of scar tissue that I'm going to talk about is acne scars and I know this applies to a lot of you guys out there. And you're going to ask, okay, so what did the study say about acne scarring? Well, acne scarring is associated with illness and it wasn't considered a noble scar.
Now, with my background Evolutionary Biology, I'm looking at this and I would think that subconsciously many women are going to say, okay, is this someone that whose children are going to have the same features, is this someone I want to be with. So, to me it is a barrier that you may have to overcome.
So, at the end of this video and what I'm going to end this thing with is talking about ways to basically deal with scars. Now, if you, again, have a very visible scar that’s due to trauma, have a great story and be confident. You don't have to worry about, you know, that that's actually going to break up your level of attractiveness, so good luck there. Do not go out and scar yourself by the way.
How Are The Facial Scars Perceived?
#1 Consult With A Dermatologist
If you're dealing with acne scars if you're dealing basically with — with something that's really bad here, you may want to go out and first consult with a dermatologist. Now, one other option is going to be and in this case I think it's, you know, to build up your confidence, yeah, maybe you will want to work with a plastic surgeon with somebody that can come in and basically use laser treatments to clean up scarring on your skin.
#2 Health Spa
Another option to go up is to go to a health spa. I know so many guys they avoid these places but when you go into a health spa you're going to be amazed, it's not just for women. And try to go to — I like health spas because they were they actually have a doctor that's associated with them. And you're going to see aestheticians and you'll see aesthetician spelled with an E and with an A. Same thing, except if it's spelled with an A that means they’re are associated with a doctor and they can actually do advanced treatments.
But, they've got the you different like hydro spas which actually runs water and cleans out your pores. They have other ones that you know that I've talked about microdermabrasion, they can do things like that. But, you know, and I've talked about DIY kits, I’m going to the link you guys over to another video where I've talked about microabrasion kits when, you know, for guys over their 40’s and stuff like that, but it can also apply to guys that have very superficial scars. So, those are things that you can look at.
But, also, you want to look at maybe creams that have Retinols and Vitamin A and that can slow – if it’s really minor, it can help to repair overtime. It’s going to be really non-invasive, so it’s something that, you know, it's not as extreme, going to be less expensive, but a lot of those creams out there are expensive.
#3 Anti-Aging Creams
You can use and believe me some of these anti-aging creams can also help with some of the scarring. You may also want to look at cortisone treatment. So, again, probably go, you know, talk to an aesthetician, go over and talk with a dermatologist, but make sure you get some guidance and you find what's right for you, everyone skin is different.
#4 Cover It Up
My third tip is to cover it up. And what do I mean – so I’ve got actually a good cover up here. Guys, look to grow a beard. I’m going to link over to my friend Eric over at Beardbrand. He's got a great video on how any man can grow a beard. So, even if you think you can't you probably can, you just haven't given it enough time. But, the point being when you grow a beard and all the sudden you go from something that you're ashamed of people to see to you're proud for people to come up and touch which believe me some women — women are just attracted to beards. There are many women who will just come up and start touching your beard and it's great when people have — give you these great compliments.
So, you go from it's almost a 180. And that’s the key, gentlemen is I want you to be confident in your own skin. I want you to realize that these scars don't define you. Yeah, they may have a great story and but it's really about who you are on the inside. And for you to be able to control that and to know that once you – once you realize, hey, I've got a lot to share with the world and I'm not going to let a scar hold me back and you're going to get out there and you’re just going to feel good when you've got something to stand for.
So, guys go out there walk with confidence. If you've got a scar, make sure you've got a great story like my brother, Tom. Or, make sure that you manage it and that you take those scars and you use them to become strength.
That's it guys. Let me know what you think down in the comments and go check out by the way my Personal Image Blueprint. If you're not familiar with the Personal Image Blueprint, this is my master level course. It has an entire section on the science of style, so if you enjoy that I'm bringing studies into these videos, understand that over in my Science of Style section which is a bonus course within the Personal Image Blueprint.
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This post is based on the video – Are Scars Attractive On Men?
