We have all been there, you see a beautiful woman from across a crowded bar. So, you work up the courage to go over and introduce yourself.
As a guy, there's a lot of pressure to be suave and sophisticated, with that perfect opening line.
What you don’t realize is before you open your mouth, she has measured you up in 10 different ways.
No matter how great that line is or how awesome your clothes. Your body language can be sending messages you’re not aware of, but she certainly is.
Today we are breaking down the 10 things women notices about men in the first 10 seconds.
Things Women Notice #1: A Signature Scent
We talk a lot about the importance of a signature scent at RMRS and for good reason, smell plays a vital role in people's perception of you. Wearing a fragrance shows that you not only keep clean to stop smelling bad, but you take action to make sure you smell good.
Trust me, one of the first things women notice about you is how you smell.
Yet, with 100s of options out there, it can be hard to choose. Do you go for a common crowd please like Dior Sauvage or Versace Eros? Or do you go for something less common such as Thierry Mugler A*MEN?
Having a crowd-pleaser is useful as it's not going to be offensive and you’re going to smell great. But you are also going to smell like every guy who has hit on her that night.
Going for something that smells great but is a bit more obscure, is going to make you stand out from the crowd. But it might be a fragrance that she just does not like. It is a tough call to make.
But as a wise woman once said…
“It is better to be looked over than overlooked” – Mae West
No matter which option you choose be careful not to take it too far. Excessive fragrance can be as offensive to the nose as smelling horrible.
Use a safe but moderate amount of two or three squirts should be more than enough.
If your not sure check out the infographic below for the best places to apply fragrance.
Things Women Notice #2: Perfect Posture
Your posture and your body language say more about you than you realize. Are you hunched up with crossed arms and a scowl? Do you keep your hands in your pockets and avoid eye contact? These are signals that you want to be left alone, they are often signals you don't know your sending.
This is closed body language and it is not a great look. It makes you look weak and lacking confidence.
Instead try to adopt a more open body language, literally. Open your arms and face the person you're talking to, make eye contact, keep your chest out and shoulders back. This lets her know that you're confident man and that she has your undivided attention. The key to maintaining good body language and posture is to be vigilant about it. Most men don't give their body language a second thought.
You don't want to be “most men”. Keep your posture in your mind, and if you find yourself slipping correct it.
A great trick to maintaining good posture is to stand against a wall for 30 seconds making sure you're stood up straight with your head, back, shoulders, buttocks, and heels touching the wall. Do this in the morning and a couple of times a day to drastically improve your posture.
Things Women Notice #3: Your Height
Another important reason for good posture is it makes you appear taller. When it comes to things women notice about men, height really matters.
It is a common stereotype that women prefer taller guys, 5 minutes on Tider will show this to be true. Tons of girls have height requirements listed on their online dating profiles.
A 2013 study from the University of Turku, Finland. Found that out of 12,502 couples surveyed, in 92.5 percent of cases the man was taller than the woman, with an average height difference of 5.6 inches.
If you're a tall guy, great you can approach most women and your height is going to benefit you.
Shorter guys, that does not mean you're completely out of luck, but you might need to pick your target. Knowing the average height difference means you can use that as a tool. If you're 5'9 then you're going to have more success with a girl that's 5'4 than you are a girl that's 5'7.
If you are on the shorter side, there are also tools you can use to make yourself appear taller.
Make sure the fit of your clothes is good, baggy will make you appear wider and thus shorter. Monochrome looks draw the eyes up and down making you appear taller. Lastly never underestimate the power of a great pair of boots.
Things Women Notice #4: Stylish Boots
The right pair of shoes can make or break an outfit. If used effectively, they can also blend in or be the standout piece.
When it comes to finding something to attract women you want something classically styled that still stands out. For this, you can't get better than a great pair of boots.
According to a 2016 study conducted by GQ Magazine:
76% of women think that casual boots are the sexiest shoes a man can wear on a first date.
Boots make you look taller and make you feel like a badass. The best boots for men are a pair that's going to stand out. A pair of leather dress boots with some brogueing are great attention-getters. Alternatively, try a pair of suede chelsea boots for that touchable quality and texture.
Things Women Notice #5: A Real Smile
A smile is a surprisingly primal thing, In primates, a smile means one thing “I am not a threat”. While we are a lot more evolved than your average chimp, we aren't that much more evolved. When it comes to women a smile means you're fun, relaxed, and most importantly attractive.
When you smile it's important that you know how to smile naturally: smile big, smile with your whole face. A real genuine smile should show your teeth, raise your cheeks and cause your eyes to crinkle.
Speaking of teeth, make sure you're keeping up with good oral hygiene, the last thing you want when talking to an attractive woman is bad breath, all they will want is for you to stop talking and to go away, don't forget to floss gentlemen.
A man with a killer outfit and a seductive smile is bound to catch someone in a conversation!
Things Women Notice #6: The Right Accessories
The right accessories can make or break an outfit. They make a good outfit into a great one. The right watch, the perfect cufflinks, and the perfect pair of shades. Accessories are a great but subtle way of sending a message. That message could be something simple like your favorite color is blue. It could be something tacky like “I've got money” or it could be something profound like “I know who I am”.
The best use of accessories is to start a conversation, and the best accessories have a story. Are they cufflinks your grandfather gave you, is it the watch you bought when you started your own business. Is it the vintage tie clip that you found for a steal at a thrift store?
The right accessories not only make you more stylish but they make you more interesting too.
To learn more about what accessories you need to add to your wardrobe check out this article: 6 Accessories Modern Men Should Have
Things Women Notice #7: Your Silhouette
One of the more subtle things women notice is your silhouette. The term silhouette refers to the shape of your body while wearing clothes. Women are drawn to a very masculine silhouette – with a built-up chest, a lean torso, and strong shoulders.
That means wearing the right clothes for your body type. Wear a jacket that builds up your shoulders and chest. Consider switching to a V-neck tee or henley to help build up your chest even more.
Make sure to avoid extreme tapers or fits when it comes to trousers. Skinny jeans are not your friend they don't display an attractive silhouette. Swap them for slim-fit or straight-leg types.
Check out this handy infographic of what jeans to wear for your body type.
Things Women Notice #8: A Leather Bag
A real leather bag sends a different message than a polyester backpack. The latter says you're a boy in high school, the former “a man making his mark on the world”.
Not only is a leather bag a stylish and masculine accessory it's a functional and useful tool. A classic and stylish leather bag commands respect. It adds to your credibility and gives you confidence.
With all the available options out there, what should you go for? Well, you can't go wrong with a leather laptop bag. Less formal than a briefcase with a useful shoulder strap and still big enough to carry everything you need. A leather laptop bag will not only last you a lifetime if looked after. It will only get better with age.
The best bags for men get better with time, leather develops a unique patina that stops it from simply being a leather bag to being “your” leather bag. Like other accessories, they are a great conversation starter. They send the message that you're sure of who you are and what you want. That level of confidence is always attractive.
Things Women Notice #9: Your Hands
Your hands say a lot about you, more than you realize. Do you bite your nails? Are your nails clean, meticulously trimmed or are they dirty and chipped? Do you have callouses or are your hands smooth? Is your handshake firm and authoritative or soft and feeble?
All of these questions show the kind of man you are. So the real question is what can or message do you want to send? If you want to be seen as attractive then make sure your nails and properly trimmed and moisturized, especially if you have a physical job. Dirty nails and cracked skin is not attractive.
Things Women Notice #10: How You Treat Others
Last on our list is something a little more abstract than the others, but it's even more important. Always remember the golden rule. “Treat others how you want to be treated” a real man doesn't demand respect, he gives it and it is reciprocated back.
How you treat other people is more important than what you wear and what you say. Actions, after all, speak louder than words.
Dates are a lot like a job interview, you get a little nervous, you put on your best clothes and you try to sell yourself to someone. And just like a job interview, often it's the little things that make the biggest impression. Did you greet them with a smile, did you hold the door open, were you polite and funny. All the qualifications in the world can't make up for a bad first impression.
You can wear all the right clothes and accessories. You can smell great and have perfect hair. But if you don't treat the waiter with respect, then she is going to notice and there won't be a second date.
Things Women Notice About Men – The Last Details
As you can see women will pick up on a lot, so it's important that your taking care of these things and continually working on self-improvement. If you want women to be interested in you, it helps to be an interesting person.
Get a hobby, something interesting that you're passionate about. Go out and travel, see the world, experience different cultures and foods. Treat others with respect and listen when people are having a conversation with you.
Fixing the issues listed here will go a long way but the main takeaway is this. Pay attention to the small things and the big things will take care of themselves.
This isn't just true for attracting women, but all areas of life. Struggling at work, set a goal to achieve every day and write it down. In a month you will have a list of over 20 accomplishments. When it comes to money get on a budget and plan every penny.
When it comes to attracting women, pay attention to how you smell, dress, act, and speak. Because even if you're not paying attention, she will be and that's the best position to be in before you approach a woman.
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